Through my job as a coach, I hear to talk about the need to find new “tools” that help us to manage our emotions in a better way. We look for it outside when it is inside. We all have available this inborn tool, that can help us every day if we set it out, to be an improved version of ourselves. Well, if it is so easy, why we do not always achieve it? We don’t because we have fear. We have fear of pain and that causes us pain. The experts in motivation say that successful people have overcome three fears: “fear of a fool of itself, fear of rejection and fear of fail.”

According to my mind, these fear concepts are only interpretations. If not, how is it possible that the same situation can be ridiculous for somebody and absolutely funny to another? The same with rejection, one person can feel rejection and other can only think that at this moment that does not fit. What about fail? How do we define failure? For us, the coaches, fail does not exist; we call it “unexpected result”. Personally I prefer to consider it a chance to create a higher response.

Reached that point, how can we create a higher response then? Obviously the answer is not from fear. Fear does not awake our best. The answer is love. This is the tool that I am referring from the beginning. Love for ourselves as single and unrepeatable human beings. Love for life unrepeatable as well. Love for our freedom. Our freedom to choose “Who and What do we want to be” every moment with the things that happen to us. What about to change this paradigm? What about to think that things do not happen to us but for us? From this new point of view, where in the past we felt danger now we discover an opportunity, where there was fear now we feel confidence. And moreover, energy spreads. And what kind of energy do we choose to generate around? Fear energy? That became us fade and tiny? Or love energy? That exalts us and makes us shine?


Wise you up to awake your best!